Valentine’s day is less than a week away. After working one too many Valentine’s day shifts at restaurants/bars in college, I usually choose to celebrate Valentine’s day the weekend before or after to avoid the hysteria and hype. However, this year I’ll actually be celebrating on Valentine’s day at the Russian baths.
I’m not anti-Valentine’s day. In fact, this comic basically sums up my thoughts. I do think that it’s nice to have a day to celebrate those that we love. My only complaint is why do we only celebrate romantic relationships? Is that really the most important relationship in our lives?
Our culture for some reason is obsessed with the idea of “The One”. That one person who will complete us and whisk us off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Excuse me… that’s bullshit.
I love my boyfriend. He’s one of my best friends, and he has many wonderful qualities: he’s a fantastic teacher, a quality snuggler, a great cook, and incredibly empathetic. However, he can’t be everything to me. If you’re expecting one person to fulfill all of your needs, fairy-tale style, you are in for a rude wake-up call from reality.
I need my friends, best friends, sisters, grandparents, parents and all the other relationships in my life to fulfill my needs* Who else will I go to art exhibits with? Be my partner in crime on a Friday night? Reminisce about our college escapades with? Hash out problems as work? Be sympathetic to all of those problems that come with being female? Understand how you can fall in love with a pair of heels? Talk about our crazy dreams and ambitions for the future? And every once in a while, rely on when the Italian and I are having one of our rare fights?
I have been incredibly blessed to have many strong relationships (and maybe more importantly, female relationships) in my life. I’m just upset that these people that are so important to me don’t get a special day of their own. It seems we’re always focused on our romantic relationships and parent-child relationships.
I would love for us to celebrate anniversaries, mourn endings and have a special day just for our best friends. We could call it Friends Day!
But in lieu of that, just remember to take the time to check up on an old friend and tell them how much they mean to you, because love and relationships comes in all different shapes and sizes. Happy Valentine’s Day.
* Obviously I try to support my friends as well and I just hope that I come even close to be as good of a friend to them as they are to me.
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